Parenting teenagers

Essential information about the SAT Writing Score and the Essay

Screen Shot 2013-12-02 at 10.23.14 AMSAT scores are back today.  Many students got up at the crack of dawn to check scores.  If you got the score you hoped for, congratulations!  If not, stay confident.  Don't let this score define you.  You are more than a score.  Sign up for the next test and continue to prepare.  A positive attitude is essential. After working with many students on SAT Prep, I have seen that SAT scores CAN be improved with dedication, practice and a positive attitude.  It takes a lot of time and a lot of work. There are strategies, but not shortcuts.  It takes TIME.  The SAT is a standardized test.  There is only one correct answer to each question.  With practice and preparation, it becomes easier to find that correct answer.

The one exception to the 'one correct answer' is the essay. The essay is graded subjectively and has many possible answers.  This article, written by Debbie Stier, the author of The Perfect Score Project, is an essential read for all students (and parents of these students) who are taking or have taken the SAT for ACT.  After seven attempts, she, a published writer, could not get a score of 12 on the writing.  Her friend, whose books have been USED ON THE SAT CRITICAL READING SECTION could not score a 12!!!  (On a much more positive note - you can still get a perfect SAT score with a 10 on the writing)

On a separate note, I highly recommend Debbie Stier's book, The Perfect Score Project to parents of students who are taking standardized tests.  It will make you laugh and give you a glimpse into the testing world of teens today.  My review of the book can be found here.

Sandy Aprahamian - Principal, Educational Consultant, EdNavigators


Building Strong Relationships with Teenagers

teen and parentThe Power of Moms is one of my favorite "go-to" websites.  The Power of Moms recently published a podcast titled Strong Relationships with Teenagers. I enjoyed listening to the podcast and wanted to share it.  Since I work with teens and am currently parenting a couple of teens, I found the podcast to be both helpful and reassuring.  It's not easy but it can be really fun.   The write-up below from The Power of Moms website summarizes the podcast well. Enjoy the podcast, enjoy your teens and keep up the great work as parents:)

Parenting teenagers is a whole new ball game!

Power of Moms Co-Founder, Saren, and her sister, Shawni, who runs the popular blog,71 Toes, have three teenagers between them plus a couple of pre-teens. They share what they’re learning about building and maintaining strong relationships with teenagers.

Some of the main tips they discuss:

  • Strive to see all the positive and fun aspects of parenting teenagers. Don’t buy into all the hype out there about how teenagers are so awful.
  • Ask good, specific questions and really listen to the answers. 
  • Embrace the notion that “if it’s important to you, it’s important to me.” Do your homework when it comes to their interests so that you can ask good questions and support what really matters to them.
  • Build up their self-esteem; give sincere daily compliments; look for the positive in what they do and who they are and make sure they know the good things you think about them. Make sure your eyes light up when they walk into the room.
  • Make sure they know they can talk to you any time about anything, that you’ll drop everything else to talk when there’s something big going on in their minds or in their lives.
  • Make sure you show physical affection to teens (a pat on the back, an arm around their shoulders, etc.).
  • Engage in at least one brief but meaningful one-on-one conversation with them each day (can be by text if need be!).
  • Ask for help. There will be many times that we’re faced with worries and issues beyond our own abilities. Pray. Ask for help from trusted friends and family members. Research possible answers.
  • Be humble. Explain and apologize when you realize you’ve been overly upset or overly demanding. Ask for their help. Let them know you want to do a great job as their mom but that there’s a lot you don’t know and you’d love to know what’s working for them and what’s not. Strong Relationships with Teenagers – Episode 65  by SAREN EYRE LOOSLI on Nov 5, 2013 • 10:16 am